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| A True Confession.. |
| 09.21.04 (7:35 pm) [edit] |
[b][u]WARNING:[/u]This is a very long post, but I would appreciate it if you read it to the very end before passing judgement or concluding wrongly. Thank you![/b] :)
[i]I guess this has been long overdue, but to be perfectly honest I couldn't really be arsed dealing with it while we had bigger issues to deal with like my Uncle being ill! But seeing as a person's integrity and decency as both writer and blogger has been called into question I have no other option than to address this here and NOW!
Recently, there were a spate of comments, tmails and tags left on both the fooble chatbox and with posts on here. I feel like it's about time I gave adequate response to what was said, especially to explain what's what to everyone, and also to those who have joined the bandwagon without having the guts, or courtesy to ask about it. In as much as I believe that friendships on the internet are fleeting anyway, I really did think that here on tblog it was different. I guess, you really cant take people at face value can you?!
Now, so that we are clear [b]Cyberpal is actually TWO people![/b] Yep, you read right [b]TWO[/b] people! There is the cyberpal who started this blog way back in January or whenever it was and there is another addition who ghosted in from time to time to drop a few posts here and there. For the record, the person who owns the blog is [b]MATTHEW[/b], but the ghost writer, poster or contributor has been me his 'cousin' [b]OLUMIDE[/b], who a few of you might know from the past on other sites and forums by the name [b]Hannibal[/b]. Deejay, Toyin, Grant, Baba, QueenB, Smokeycat, Livingspring, momo, jejebaby, etc... know who I am. I have been masquerading under other blog names, but am more than ever reluctant to reveal them now.
The point to this is that Matthew allowed me to add posts on here and sometimes even reply the comments. That doesn't mean he hasn't been 'real' about this, just not altogether forthcoming with particular posts. Hence atimes you might have noticed no replies when particular posts go up, cos he didn't write it I did. So I, [b]Olu[/b] have been embellishing posts a bit. In that they didnt exactly originate from me. Now I stop short of accusing myself of copyright theft, cos by definition what I did could be construed as plagiarism, but even that might be a bit too harsh, as I didn't just cut, copy and paste.[/i]
[b]copy·right[/b]
Function: noun
: a person's exclusive right to reproduce, publish, or sell his or her original work of authorship (as a literary, musical, dramatic, artistic, or architectural work)
[b]plagiarism[/b]
n 1: a piece of writing that has been copied from someone else and is presented as being your own work 2: the act of plagiarizing; taking someone's words or ideas as if they were your own.
[i]It's not exactly the same when taking it in the context of blogging as I altered the contents and in some cases changed the whole cadence of the material. Yes I am trying to make excuses, and yes I stand by what I did. What I will say though is that [b]Matthew[/b] never knew that some of the posts on the blog were adapted from somebody else's writings. Not only has the criticism been robust, abusive and down-right insulting in all this, I have noticed that a few people who I thought knew him better have had a few things to say abt it all too. I will be making a full apology to the aggrieved party and the reason it has taken so long to do so, was becos I didn't think I had done anything wrong so to speak.... but Matthew has been pissed with me about it and the undue abuse he's been getting that I had to say something even if it does blow our otherwise perfect blogging coup.
So, to clear the air... I propose to delete whichever posts I have written here from the Archives that are considered 'plagiarism' as well as offer an open apology to the aggreived blogger(who isn't from tblog by the way). The most I've been able to get from the spiteful tmails is that he/she is some kinda writer... well there you go then. [b]I'm sincerely sorry for the material used here on the blog[/b]. Also, I would like to state that things aren't exactly what they seem, I didn't do this knowingly thinking I was doing anything wrong. Anyway, doesn't it strike you that this was done knowing full well that the ruse could or would be revealed... I'm just pissed that it was here on Matthew's blog and not my other blogs.
As someone succinctly put it in a comment I was privy to reading .....[b]"maybe he did it to see how you all would react to it and thus create for themselves a semblence of temporary amusement at your well trained lemming response and band wagon jump on masses mentality. congratulations. within all of your individualism, you have all wonderfully fallen into the mundane of identicalistic well media trained sameness. heh."[/b] Well, to all those who unilaterally assumed anything was gained by this, I'm sorry to disappoint you. Also, to anybody who will try to gain mileage out of this I say get a life.This might not sound like much of apology, and to be honest I'm only doing this to heal the rift it's caused between my cousin(Matt) and I... But I do believe that what I did was more to do with [b]"fair Use"[/b] than actual copyright theft or plagiarism.[/i]
[b]fair use
:[/b] a use of copyrighted material that does not constitute an infringement of the copyright provided the use is fair and reasonable and does not substantially impair the value of the work or the profits expected from it by its owner; also : the privilege of making a fair use of copyrighted work
[i]NOTE: Among the factors determining if a use of a copyrighted work is a fair use are these: the purpose of the use, the character of the use (as in being commercial or educational in nature), the nature of the copyrighted work, and the amount of the work used.
To all the people who never worked it out, I apologise. But I know that a few of you cottoned-on that I wasn't Matt when chatting, tmailing or leaving comments a few times. The whole ghost writing charade wasn't meant to be malicious, under-hand or in anyway meant to undermine any one person. It was just a ruse that started off as a bit of fun, but with the increased number of comments became something that got out of hand. Hopefully Matthew will read this and realise that I am at least sorry to have put him in such a predicament.
Thx for reading this to the end, and once again I apologise for any offence caused. The material was in no way used for financial gain or any other type of gain. So I hope a line can be drawn under this once and for all now? Again, I hope this revelation has no adverse affect on the many relationships that Matthew has brokered on here through this blog, we never meant to keep the ruse going for so long.... just got out of control. Thanks!!
Olumide.[/I]
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| American Women are Hot!! |
| 09.20.04 (5:00 pm) [edit] |
[i]Hi Peeps, still down in London with Pops. He's out of hospital and recovering well, that's if you take into account that he's a bit grumpy and snappy at having to be restricted to bed-rest for the next week or so. That and the fact that Mum wont let him forget the fact that he just had heart surgery.... she' beginning to even drive me potty with her fussing!! :roll: Was a really good weekend, the whole family was around and we had a great time just hanging out together and catching up. It's weird knowing that if not for Dad's illness, it might have been months if not years for us all to be in one place at the same time. Well done DAD!! Hehe! :)
Not been up to much this last week, except visiting Dad at the hospital and stuff. But I have to confess I brushed up on some serious day-time TV over the last week. Apart from the normal talk-shows and stuff, one that really caught my eye was the [b]'America's next top model'[/b] competition, series 1 (2003) with [b]Tyra[/b] (what a beauty!) [b]Banks[/b] as the host/judge/creator/execut ive producer. I have to admit here and now, I'm hooked!! (There goes all my rants on reality TV in the past!) But I'm sure it just might have summin to do with all those beautiful women in one place... American women sure are beautiful!! :wink:
[b]Elyse[/b] is my fav, not cos of the way she looks.... which is way too skinny btw, but for her intellect (a nerdy scholar), witty repartee and her tenacity in standing up for what she believes in... which aint much btw!! I couldn't help myself, so I looked it up and saw that she didn't win, so that kinda spoilt it for me, but even so I am still watching the climax this week. Btw, still off work this week too.... but had to get the time off as part of my annual leave. Hopefully, shd be back up in Newcastle by the weekend with the 'oldies' safely on their way back home.
Once again I appreciate the emails, tmails and whatnot. Also, I have a bit of a confession/unraveling to make on here. But I'll leave that to the guilty party to make it in his own time...make sense?! :shock: I didn't think it would, but all will be revealed. All I ask is that y'all try and understand and see past the revelation itself.... I hope y'all will.
Have a great week peeps, and I hope to be back on here soon. Miss y'all loads :wink:[/i]
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| Thx everyone!! |
| 09.18.04 (1:04 pm) [edit] |
[i]Quick update. Dad had minor surgery on Thursday evening. Apparently he had been diagnosed with [b]Angina[/b] - is a type of temporary chest pain, pressure or discomfort, which had been affecting him for a while now. Initially he had [b]stable angina[/b] which is when attacks happen only when the heart needs extra oxygen, like when a person climbs a long flight of stairs or jogs across the street. But recently it had developed into [b]unstable angina[/b] when attacks occur more frequently, with less activity – even when a person is at sitting down.
So they did all the tests and found that his heart was not getting enough oxygen-rich blood, which they described as a distress call or warning signal. His coronary arteries were hardened and narrowed so he had to have angioplasty with stenting. From what we were told it should improve blood flow and reduce the risk of heart attack and sudden cardiac death.
He is coming home later on today and should be right as rain in a few days. Dad being Dad is bored silly doing nothing and just wants to get out of hospital. I really want to thx all who emailed, tmailed and so on.... it's a huge relief to know that he is gonna be alright. I appreciate every single one of you guys and I will reply y'all when I get a sec!! Cheers! :D
Peace out peeps! and have a good weekend one and all!! :wink:[/i]
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| Dear Dad... |
| 09.15.04 (6:40 pm) [edit] |
[i][b]Everyday you're on my mind.
I wonder what you're doing,
what you're thinking, but mostly I wonder how
you're feeling.
I know I can be a pain, That won't go away.
I don't want to worry, but how can I not?
You are my Father, my pride and best of all my hero.
When I see you, you look so tired and drawn,
but on you go. You won't tell me when you're hurting,
you wont admit the pain that you're enduring.
You always have a smile that makes my day
but you must know that I smile with you,
but I cry deeply within.
I hate the futility, not knowing what's what.
Father, Daddy, Pops: I love you so much.
I never want to let you go
But I want you to know it is okay for you
to let go. Express your fears, pain and hurt
I'm a big boy now!
You'll always be my Dad, and I'll always be
your Son - together we'll always have
that bond of love.
I love you, now, always and forever...Get well soon! :)[/b][/i]
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| Are You Happy?? |
| 09.13.04 (6:21 pm) [edit] |
[i]Quick update, Dad's still poorly and may even need an operation (surgery) if things dont improve in a couple of days. Apparently, it's a long term condition that he never told us (the kids) abt! Heading back down south tomorrow, they have been kind enough to give me the week off at work today. Nothing much to blog abt at the moment I'm afraid, but I'll check in from time to time. Thx to you guys who emailed and stuff, you're the best!! :wink:
Have you ever heard that saying that goes summin like this... "Mother always knows" or "Mother knows best"? Well it seems to be the case where my Mum is concerned. Even when I was a kid, she had this knack of being able to tell when summin was bugging me or summin was wrong... often regardless of how well I tried to hide it! :roll: Typical example was y/day, as I was setting out to head back up here... out of the blue she asks [b]"Are you happy?"[/b]
Wow!! what a question!! Apart from Dad being ill and her worrying endlessly abt him, she could still tell that all was not right with me... kinda scary stuff! I just countered with [b]"what is happiness anyways?"[/b] with that I got into car and headed up North. But thru out the journey up, the question kept reverbrating in my mind.... "Are you happy?" How do we measure happiness? Is it thru physical, emotional, financial, spiritual or material gratification and pleasure or is it more? What does make me happy?
So I thought to myself, why not test myself if I was happy or not with questions that relate to my everyday life and see.
[b]Do I experience pleasure of any kind daily?[/b]... what are my pleasures??
[b]Do I have a positive outlook or not?[/b].... do my convo's focus on how bad the weather is, the state of the world or things that annoy me??
[b]Am I happy in my relationships?[/b] .... across the board, with friends, family, colleagues, neighbours etc??
[b]Do I feel as if I'm in a rut?[/b]... am I stagnating, feel like I'm circling the same spot??
[b]Do I enjoy the work that I do?[/b]... is my work satisfying, am I doing what I want to do??
[b]Do I laugh a lot?[/b]...whether it be a chuckle, side splitting or dry, do I laugh enough??
[b]Would I say that I was happy?[/b]... as a rule, is happiness a quality I see in my life as it is or not??
That's just a few I came up with, but at the end of it all I'm no closer to actually working out whether I'm happy or NOT!! Cos sometimes, I'm a happy bunny who people like being around cos it's infectious(sp?). Then there are some aspects of my life I'd like to improve. I find that when I do the same things, I dont get as much pleasure... I guess that's when I wonder if I shd try summin different. Then there are those times when I know that happiness wont come looking for me, I've got to find it for myself! (When I am a pain to be around!)
Bottom line is that if I am to answer that question honestly, I have to make the decision to turn my life around and start thinking and acting positively and then I [b]WILL[/b] be happy!! They do say 'laughing alleviates stress and anxiety' and I'm of the opinion that it is so easy to be happy... actually I could be happy in a heart beat if only I tried. Happiness isn't abt material success or as a result of being in the right place at the right time... I guess I just have to try to be happy.... that shouldn't be too hard... should it?! :)
So peeps, are you happy? :?[/i]
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| Teachers strike back!! |
| 09.10.04 (3:05 pm) [edit] |
[i]Was rifling through my primary and high school stuff the other day and came across a few report cards I had recieved while there. I suddenly had flash backs to what I was like in school.... to some teachers I was the [b]'ideal student'[/b] to others I was the [b]'proverbial nightmare'[/b] all teachers dread in their classes.
If I actually posted some of my report card comments, it might just shatter the illusion some of you may have of me. So to spare all your blushes and more importantly mine I'll just say this much..... I was in no way the teachers pet. What was with teachers back then though anyway?
I've read some and maybe it's just me but a few of my report comments were the most patronising and condescending things I've ever read. I shudder to think what my parents thought when reading them? Maybe that's why on a few occassions on PTA night I saw Mum engrossed in deep conversation with one or two of them, shaking her head and mumbling under her breath... I guess I'll never know... :roll:
But then again teachers did have a rough time of it at school, cos I know for sure that I was a real tear-away, constantly flouting rules and pushing boundaries to see how much I could get way with! :evil: So I went and looked up my old school's website and other sites and came up with a few comments that I would probably have written about some of the kids I was in school with...
So this is for all the teachers back then, I'm helping them strike back. Here is a list of ten funny insults that teachers can use to describe those pesky classroom inhabitants. Not malicious, just funny. :D
[b]1)[/b] Since my last report, your child has reached rock bottom and has started to dig.
[b]2)[/b] I would not allow this student to breed.
[b]3)[/b] Your son is depriving a village somewhere of an idiot.
[b]4)[/b] Your son sets low personal standards and then consistently fails to achieve them.
[b]5)[/b] The student has a "full six-pack" but lacks the plastic thing to hold it all together.
[b]6)[/b] When your daughter's IQ reaches 50, she should sell.
[b]7)[/b] The gates are down, the lights are flashing, but the train isn't coming.
[b]8)[/b] If this student were any more stupid, he'd have to be watered twice a week.
[b]9)[/b] It's impossible to believe that the sperm that created this child beat out 1,000,000 others.
[b]10)[/b] The wheel is turning but the hamster is definitely dead.
What were your report cards like? hehe! :) Btw, Dad's much better, off to London this evening to see them. Might be next week before I'm back here again... miss y'all!! :wink:[/i]
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| Hey Peeps!! |
| 09.08.04 (3:58 pm) [edit] |
[i]Hi Peeps, long time no hear a peek from mua... last week was a bit of a rollercoaster. :shock:
My folks were around for the weekend as some of you already know and I had to do the 'son-ly' thing and hang with them while they were in town. Good thing they were here too, as Dad took a turn for the worse and became a bit poorly. But hopefully he'll be okay, they've had to delay their trip to visit my bro in the states for a few days for him to recuperate. Families eh! drive you round the bend at the best of times, but in a crisis they are definitely the only people you want to be around and that you can really rely on! :)
Not back at work till tomorrow anyways, so I'll see about spending this evening catching up on y'alls blogs. Thx to all who sent me emails and such, I hadn't gone AWOL, just an extended break. Will try to reply all the mails and tmails today. Sunny and bright up here, may just head off and make the best of the day, seeing as the forecast is for a change in weather at the end of the week. Hope y'all are having a great day and an even better week? Ciao peeps! :D
Btw, happy belated birthday to [b]Lynne[/b], [b]Pascale[/b] and [b]Yemi[/b]! :D[/i]
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| Wtf???! |
| 09.01.04 (7:00 pm) [edit] |
[i]Not quite sure wtf is going on on my blog, but need to contact [b]Rocky[/b]!! I've had to close all comments for the time being until it's resolved! I've had some freaks commenting here and saying all sorts... I'mma have to post without comments forthwith!
So if you have any comments, abuse, criticisms, whimsical thoughts or what not mail is the way forward for now. Cheers!!
[b]PS[/b]: If someone is messing with me, they'd better STOP!! :evil: It aint funny in the least AND I'm getting pissed off with it all!! :x[/i]
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| What a joke!! |
| 09.01.04 (3:53 pm) [edit] |
[i]I'm going absolutely crazy
And not in a "boy-isn't-this-fun-to-be -delirious" sense either!! :evil:
If work situation does not improve, I think I'm going to end up faking my own kidnapping and learning love for automatic weaponry a la Patty Hearst.
[b]Immediately.[/b]
Think perhaps that yours truly works for [b]the[/b] most [b]unprofessional[/b] set of fuckwits in the architectural/constructio n world. It's simply not right to have to go to the bathroom and cuss the air blue after getting yelled at by Mr. High-n-mighty who -- when he discovers he was dead wrong and yours truly was... ahem... correct as usual, 'King Fuck-up' -- does not have the balls to apologise. What a fucking Asshole. Imbecile. Nonentity. Wanker!! :x
Come on, Someone. Teach me some automatic weaponry skills. I'm feeling manic!! :evil:[/i]
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| Inner Bastard!! |
| 09.01.04 (12:42 pm) [edit] |
[i]Went to bed irritated. Woke up irritated. Would think that somehow, in 6 hours of sleep, would have some miraculous recovery of attitude. Nope. Didn't happen. What did happen upon waking, was repeated pushing of snooze button and growing aggravation of having to get out of warm bed and scoot self off into cold morning to place of employment. Not happy..... not happy at all! :(
(Grumble. Whimper.) "Fuck!" :evil:
[b]I swear, if you're late for work again...[/b]
"I'm beginning to think you're no 'Inner Ego' at all. More like an [b]Inner Bastard[/b]." grumbles yet again...
[b]Any reason we're so cranky this morning, Sunshine?[/b]
"Could be that I had [b]THE[/b] most frustrating, unresolved disagreement with Kirsty yesterday. Could be that I seem to have forgot to do laundry in the last two weeks and all my trousers are dirty. Or, could be that I just am reserving the right to be uncharacteristically foul-tempered today. That okay with you?"
[b]PMS if you ask me....[/b]
"WTF??! ...Excuse me?" :shock:
[b]We both know that's what this is.[/b]
"Yeah, I do you numbskull, but I also know guys dont get that, you imbecile!!"
[b]awfully touchy this morning aren't we?[/b]
"Then, shouldn't I just be allowed to crawl back into bed and sleep until my clothes get washed and the world makes sense again?"
[b]Funny how it doesn't work that way. Now, put some "angry" early morning music in your ipod and go to work.[/b]
"Bossy."
[b]Go to work.[/b]
"Go to hell."
[b]After you, mate.[/b]
And that folks was my early morning discussion with [b]self[/b].... As you can see, we are getting on like a house on fire at the moment!! :roll: The day [b]has[/b] improved a bit... already been on-site today, and have another site meeting this evening.... also going to the gym!! That should be a 'treat'.... gawd help me!! :(
Have a good day, and toodles peeps!! :D[/i]
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